Grab a martini, let's demystify menopause.
Today’s Topic: Simple ain’t easy.
Use “The Square” for your self care.
I’m at the Portland Airport, 6am on a Tuesday. Standing in a line behind a woman and her young daughter. I know it was her daughter, because she couldn’t stop saying “MOM, I’M HUNGRY. MOM, I’M TIRED. MOM, HOW LONG ‘TIL WE GO. MOM, I’M BORED.” For a brief moment the woman and I lock eyes. I smile at her with a knowing “I’ve been there, too” smile.
“It won’t always be this hard,” I say. She looks doubtful.
Things get simpler. Children feed themselves, eventually. Motherhood, however, isn’t easy. There’s a big difference, and I think about this concept often.
My life is like so many who travel for work. Just this past week, I woke at 3am and was in the car to the airport by 4:15am. I boarded the plane at 5:30am, flew across the country all day, stopping for a brief time in Atlanta to change planes, and on to Virginia I went. By 5pm EST, I have traveled from one side of the country to the other. And I am exhausted.
My travels have me speaking to audiences who are hungry to learn. My message to them is usually around the topic of self-care - and I can speak these messages in my sleep. Sometimes I actually do, so says my husband! (Sorry, honey.)
I repeat the same message, with clever anecdotes and colorful PowerPoint slides. Drink water, you will feel better. Meditate more, you will sleep better. Move your body, you will live longer. Over and over. It is practical information, and it always resonates. I am hired again, and I head out at 5am many days, to speak this message to many audiences.
I meet people everywhere who tell me the same thing. They are tired. They work too much and don’t sleep. They drink less water and more coffee. They are BURNED OUT, MAXED OUT, STRESSED OUT and FREAKING OUT. What is it about self-care that thwarts us? Why is it hard to make healthy choices?
Well, I don’t know all the answers to that. But I do know that it’s anything but easy. For many of us, me included, making healthy choices has to be a conscious decision every day. And it is A LOT OF WORK. Simple ain’t easy. It just ain’t.
Like we talked about last month, burnout is real and it isn’t funny. We have to take it seriously, and relieve some of this stress. The research doesn’t lie. Burnout will kill you. Have I scared you? Well, good. Let’s get to work.
The reason I love my job so much because I really believe in it. People often ask me, “How do you do it? How do you keep going and stay involved in so many things?” The answer is simple - I believe in self-care. I believe in taking care of myself as an act of love, not only to me, but to those I love and serve. And believe me, some days it feels harder than others. So I’ve developed a method - a strategy to make it simple.
I am so delighted to introduce what I’m calling my SELF-CARE SQUARE. In a nutshell, I break self care down into four main areas. Allow me to introduce you to the self care strategies. (Drum roll, please…)
Physical Wellness, Nutrition, Sleep, and Mental Wellness.
We will feel better and live better when we pay close attention to these 4 areas: it’s that simple.
Whether I’m empowering a group of employees to slay workplace burnout, or talking to a women’s group about living their best self through the menopausal years, I preach this gospel over and over. These four areas of self-care are the foundations of living well, whatever your circumstances. They will save your life. They save mine every day.
By focusing on making simple, daily changes, you can change your health and your outlook. You can save your own life.
But simple ain’t easy, right? There is a lot to unpack here, and I am asking you to join me. In the coming weeks, I’ll blog a deeper dive into these self-care strategies. I’ll share the tools you need to incorporate positive changes in these four areas of your life. I’ve written on my blog many times about self care, the simple strategies to a healthier life, and now you and I are going to look at them again - because it never gets old. Make a renewed vow to yourself to slay your burnout. Together, we can continue to help you live better and feel better.
Are you in? Good. Because you’re worth it.
In the meanwhile, I have homework for you - don’t worry, you’ll enjoy it! Do something nice for yourself. Treat yourself like a loving best friend would. Take yourself on a walk and notice how the season is changing. Eat a salad, for goodness sake. Wash your face, brush your teeth, and hit the hay earlier tonight.
Together we can thrive, friends. Let’s do this!
I believe in you,
And now it’s time for… IT’S MY BLOG AND I’LL SHAMELESSLY SELF PROMOTE IF I WANT TO:
Pick up my book if you haven’t already- it’s full of self-care strategies.
This roomful of women agree…
SELF CARE STRATEGY #1 – PHYSICAL WELLNESS
Move it or lose it!
I’m Kelli. I am a menopause survivor, who has catapulted, stumbled, laughed, and cried my way to the other side of perimenopause and menopause. Along the way I’ve learned invaluable tips and resources to live my best self and beat the Hormone Groan!
No longer a hormone hostage (at least most days), my goal is to help you live well and with personal power through all the changes we go through in this incredible journey of life!